When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself? Are you cruel? Do you look at everything you think is wrong with you rather than look at all your good qualities? Don’t worry, you aren’t alone. In Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez’s new book, The Bitch in Your Head: How to Finally Squash Your Inner Critic, a therapist steps back and looks at a common and dangerous phenomena among women. According to Plumez and her research, the average American woman looks in the mirror and sees only her flaws. Meanwhile, the average American man sees his qualities. Many women accept less than what they deserve because of that tiny voice in our head that tells us we aren’t worth much. This book looks to those behaviors and to find ways to silence the voice, or “the Bitch,” and allow women to reach their full potential.
Plumez does make reference to men and how they may use this book as well, but in all honesty The Bitch in Your Head feels like a book for women and less like an omnisex book. Most of the examples are women. Most of the advice is catered towards women. Sometimes it’s just plain nice to have a book cater to us. However, if you’re looking for a revolutionary book with a complete breakthrough of things that have never been said before, you will be disappointed. If you need a good reminder and notes on how to get those negatives thoughts to take a backseat, or haven’t read an entire stack of books on boundaries and taking back your strength, this is a good book to get you back on track. I will admit I’m still a bit thrown off by the use of the word bitch in the title and in this book. Per Plumez’s explanation that is the only word she feels is strong enough to support the destructive nature of these voices, but I still felt awkward reading it.
The Bitch in Your Head is a valuable tool for the woman who has played small or kept her options limited out of fear.