What Happens In Westeros Doesn’t Stay in Westeros: Wisdom from the Women of ‘Game of Thrones’


Editor’s Note and Spoiler Caution: If you aren’t caught up through Season 4 of Game of Thrones and want to be surprised I suggest turning around. In edition there are some extremely adult themes from Game of Thrones and they will be discussed here.


For almost 5 years I’ve been hearing about Game of Thrones. I read the first book of A Song of Ice and Fire trilogy by George RR Martin several years ago and watched the first season, but at the time the overwhelming amount of doggy-style sex was kind of a turn off (No, seriously, the first two seasons I thought they didn’t know any other style in Westeros). After a friend of mine power-watched two seasons back to back, I stepped up with sword in hand to give it another shot.

Game of Thrones has helped make Fantasy books cool, which blows my mind as the kid who was picked on in High School for reading vampire books. Now when someone talks about dragons we don’t assume their room is filled with sandalwood incense nor do we picture them wearing socks with sandals.

The women of Game of Thrones are an entirely different breed and range from everything from the pushover to the most evil. Here are the lessons I have learned from each:

Cersei Lannister:

The worst day can be solved with wine….or sex with your hot brother…or more wine.  (in case you’re wondering, we’re joking about the incest). The episode in which Cersei and Sansa are locked up in the Siege together has more good advice and sense for a woman trapped than most self help books on Amazon.



Melisandre or The Red Woman:

Red is an excellent power color for a beautiful crazy person. However, after a certain point your crazy will out weigh your pretty. Also, demon babies that kill your enemies are just creepy. Melisandre is either the smartest or craziest person in the realms.



Sansa Stark

To be fair, I loathed Sansa Stark the first season. She was whiny and head over heels in love with Joffrey. Then I realized Sansa Stark is all of us. She is the young girl who falls in love with the wrong guy. Only unlike many of us, Sansa has to deal with it over and over and over. Her strength is that she’s learned to play the game in the process.



Margaery Tyrell

Margaery Tyrell has something Sansa Stark does not. She has had training on how to play the game since day one thanks to her grandmother. Though she married one king who turned out to not like the company of women, Lady Tyrell was not deterred from marrying another King.  Margaery knows when to keep her mouth shut and when to do things like feed the poor to make the people love her. She also knows when to grab a crossbow and knows how to show just enough cleavage, regardless of what Cersei says.


Olenna “Grandma” Tyrell

Being the surviving matriarch is the BEST JOB IN THE WORLD. Get older so you can dispense advise, rule the land and explain to wealthy people how money should really be spent. Olenna Tyrell is Game of Throne’s answer to the Dowager Countess in Downton Abbey.


Arya Stark

Arya is one of those delightful surprises in a television show like Game of Thrones. She prefers sword fighting to sewing and pants to fancy gowns. It’s a good thing too, because when she ends up in a group of boys headed to the Black Watch she manages to blend well. Honestly, only the more intelligent male characters catch on that she’s not a girl. There’s nothing wrong with being a lady, but there is something to be said for a girl who would rather learn to defend herself than play with dolls.



Always know more than you’re willing to admit and have life skills….like climbing walls and shooting your ex 3 times in the back with arrows. You know, practical stuff.


Brienne of Tarth

Though Brienne of Tarth is the daughter of an insanely wealthy sapphire trader, but she chooses to make her way by being a loyal guard to royalty. Truth be told, this isn’t going so well (Renly, Caitlyn Stark, Jaime Lannister) but she refuses to back down. HELL SHE EVEN FIGHTS FOR HER LIFE AGAINST A BEAR IN THE ARENA. I’m also a big fan of her kicking the snot out of the Hound, but that’s besides the point.  Like Arya, Brienne knows where she comes from but chooses to live on her merits and her terms.



Daenerys Targaryen-Storm Born-Mother of Dragons- Khalessi.….oh you get the point

You are only as good as the people you surround yourself with. Having a big goal will take you far. Oh, and eating hearts and having dragons helps.


Caitlyn Stark

As much as it kills me that Lady Stoneheart will not be joining us for the TV show (book pout), Lady Stark’s strength throughout the show was a thing of beauty. Her husband was murdered and labeled a traitor. Her two daughters went missing. Her son was pushed from a tower and broke his back and her eldest son ended up butchered right in front of her eyes. However, Caitlyn kept her shoulders back and refused to let her emotions be considered weaknesses. It was only trust in the wrong people that brought her down. In other words, keep strong and make sure you can trust the people you attend weddings for.




With many more deaths to come and more random words of wisdom yet to come, I know I will be tuning in for Season 5.


Season 5 of Game of Thrones premieres April 12 on HBO.


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